Affairs: A Guide to Working Through
the Repercussions of Infidelity
by Emily M. Brown.
Jossey-Bass, 1999.
List Price: $25

This supportive guide offers couples clear advice on how to work through the emotional and practical fallout of infidelity. The author presents the five types of affairs that occur, and why. She then helps readers face the affair, let go of obsession, prevent violence, work on the marriage, work on themselves, get outside help when needed, rebuild their lives in the even the marriage ends, and talk with children. Affairs is a healing guide, giving readers the knowledge and information they need to deal with difficult issues, make peacewith themselves and each other, and move on.

Patterns of Infidelity and Their Treatment
(Second Edition)
by Emily M. Brown.
Brunner-Routledge, 2001.
List Price: $36.95

Written for mental health professionals in a simple readable style. Five different types of affairs are described, as are the steps in moving from the period of secrecy, to the process of revealing the affair, through the crisis and rebuilding phases, to forgiveness.  Critical treatment issues are addressed including disclosure of an affair, reducing obsessive behavior, preventing affair-related violence, intervening with children, and resolving the underlying issues that led to the affair.  The emphasis is on using the affair crisis as an opportunity, although a painful one, to rework and resolve old issues.